The definition of abstinence is when you don’t have sex. Outercourse is other sexual activities besides vaginal sex. Sexual abstinence and outercourse can mean different things to different people. Abstinence means different things to different people. For most people, abstinence means not having sex with anyone. Sometimes people use abstinence as birth control to prevent pregnancy.
Abstinence prevents pregnancy by keeping semen away from the vagina, so the sperm cells in semen can’t get to an egg and cause pregnancy. If you’re abstinent 100% of the time, pregnancy can’t happen. People sometimes only use abstinence to prevent pregnancy on days they’re fertile (most likely to get pregnant), but they may have vaginal sex at other times. This is called fertility-awareness.
There are many reasons why you might practice abstinence, including:
• Not feeling ready to have sex yet
• No birth control available
• Don’t want to use available birth control methods
• Waiting for marriage or a special partner
• Recent breakup
• Focusing on work or school
• Personal or religious beliefs
• Medically necessary following an illness
If you practice abstinence, it’s important to let a partner know. Together, you can come up with different ways to be intimate with each other.
Is It Prevents All Sexually Transmitted Infections
Benefits Of Abstinence
People choose abstinence to
wait until they’re ready for a sexual relationship
wait to find the “right” partner
have fun with romantic partners without sexual involvement
focus on school, career, or extracurricular activities
support personal, moral, or religious beliefs and values
get over a breakup
heal from the death of a partner
follow medical advice during an illness or infection
Any woman or man can abstain from sex play. Many do so at various times in their lives. Some choose to abstain from sex play for a great part of their lives.
What Can You Do With Your Partner While Still Being Abstinent?
Not only does kissing release those “happy hormones” that help you bond with your partner, it can have an amazing effect on your overall health.
Just like masturbation, manual stimulation — using your hands or fingers to pleasure your partner — can be a fantastic way to help you reach orgasm without sexual penetration. You can also experiment with using sex toys or lubricant to stimulate each other. Your risk for pregnancy and STIs increases when bodily fluids get involved, so be sure to take precautions.
When it comes to pleasure, there are a lot of options for using your mouth on your partner’s genitals and other erogenous zones. Whether you’re trying blow jobs, cunnilingus, rimming or something else, it’s important to make sure you’re still using protection from STIs.