How Long Does It Really Take For A Woman To Reach Orgasm?

All women are different, so the answer to this question varies. One woman may reach orgasm quickly. Another may need more time. And some women don’t reach orgasm at all.

A rather specific 13.46 minutes of sexual activity, apparently. Start your timers.

Over the course of eight weeks, 645 women with an average age of 30 used a stopwatch to measure how long it took to go from the start of sexual activity to having an orgasm. The times ranged between 12.76 minutes to 14.06 minutes, although 17% of the women studied never experienced an orgasm.

As you might expect, regular old penetrative sex wasn’t the most effective path to a female climax. Only 31.4% of the women who took part orgasmed due just to penetration. Oral and other forms of stimulation are far more important when it comes to getting off.

How long women want sex to last?

There’s no set duration for how long sex should last to be satisfying to women. An informal survey of 3,836 people found that women on average want sexual intercourse to last 25 minutes and 51 seconds, though most of their encounters lasted between 16 to 17 minutes.

But according to sex therapists surveyed in a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, the ideal duration for vaginal intercourse is between seven and 13 minutes. Between one and two minutes is “too short,” three to seven minutes is “adequate,” and 10 to 30 minutes is “too long.” Anything between three and 13 minutes is considered typical, though.

It's not easy for women to reach orgasm

According to a 2018 study, 10 to 40% of women report having difficulty or an inability to reach orgasm. So your inability to hit your climax is actually more common than you think. The issue is that there are so many reasons why a person may not be able to orgasm, that it’s hard to pinpoint your exact cause. Reasons range from stress and anxiety to medical issues and past trauma, according to the study. Another bit of research also found that age, arousal difficulty, and lubrication were the top reasons why women couldn’t orgasm.

Orgasm get better with age

There are plenty of things to gripe about when it comes to age, but your sex life isn’t one of them. It turns out that as you get older, the quality and frequency of orgasms can improve, 61 percent of women ages 18 to 24 experienced orgasm the last time they had sex, 65 percent of women in their 30s did, and about 70 percent of women in their 40s and 50s did.”

With age comes more confidence and trust in the bedroom, which can allow a woman to relax more and truly enjoy their orgasm.


Many women take longer to climax than their male partners, and that’s perfectly normal. In fact, most women require at least 13 minutes of sexual activity to climax. “If you find that your partner often reaches orgasm before you do, there are ways to help him slow down, like applying firm pressure around the base of the penis. If premature ejaculation is a concern, seeing a sexologist to find alternative techniques that can help.